Body Image · Workouts

How I stay motivated when there’s no time and too much good TV

Why do I love being so lazy?

I’ve asked myself this question many times while wearing my unused workout clothes, finishing off a bag of chips and catching up on just one more Buffy the Vampire Slayer episode (a show I’ve re-watched probably a dozen times).

In my defense, Buffy is an amazing show. And chips are crazy addicting. But the real reason I’ve often opted for vampires and snacks over working out is probably one of the top reasons other people struggle: motivation.

It’s a daily struggle having to choose between catching up with Westworld or working on my deadlift. And laziness is actually low on my list on obstacles; the most common reasons I skip a workout:

  1. No Time: I get busy. We all do.
  2. No Energy: After a long day at work, doing chores, doing homework, etc etc, all I want is having nothing “to do.”
  3. Insecurity/Self-Doubt: I never realized how big of an obstacle my own insecurities were. It’s probably something that we all struggle with, especially when social media is there to constantly remind us of our inadequacies.
  4. Hunger: OMG! If I am hungry, there is NOTHING getting in my way of finding some food.
  5. Injury: As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve been dealing with back pain for several years and nothing sounds worse than exercise when my back/hip/glute is in serious pain (Side note: Don’t workout if what you’re doing will make an injury worse).
  6. Anxiety: Like I talked about in great length in my last post, I struggle with anxiety and that presents itself as an obstacle in a myriad of ways.

In my mind these are all valid excuses. But that’s the thing — they’re excuses. If I’m making my health a priority in my life — better yet, if I’m making myself a priority in my life — I have to do just that, prioritize time for being active. It can feel like self-care to indulge in a day-long Harry Potter marathon (OK bad example- HP is the best), but your body isn’t going to feel the love after Snape dies and you morph into the couch.

So how do I motivate myself off the couch and to the gym? Here’s some motivational tricks that have worked for me:

Set a Workout Goal, But Focus on Mini Goals

I mentioned in my first post I want to eventually compete in a powerlifting competition. For me, that’s a big hairy audacious goal. It looks awesome when I get there, but being a lifting novice it’s going to be awhile before I get there. If I focus on this one lofty goal, I’ll be disappointed and lose motivation if I don’t reach it in a month. I think that’s a problem a lot of us face; we expect to go from couch to marathon in a week and give up right away when it doesn’t go as planned. So I set mini goals just for myself and focus on those on the way to my big goal! Like I wanted to graduate from using the lighter “female” bar on my bench press to the heavier “male bar.” And I did it this week! Goal met and sexism vanquished (not really…)!

Schedule in Your Workouts

If you work 9-5 with a commute, there’s no food in the fridge, and/or your kids/dog/parents/significant other is demanding your attention, I sympathize. But those aspects of your life will probably always be an obstacle. So pencil it in to when you reasonably know you might have an hour, 30 minutes, 10 minutes of free time you probably otherwise spend scrolling Facebook. And plan it well in advance so that when your friend, boss, spouse or whatever demands your attention, you can tell them your schedule is already “booked.”

Side note: Don’t pick a time you know doesn’t work for you. If you hate mornings (as I do) why on earth are you trying to get up early?

Ease into it

I mentioned above that you are going to be to be sorely (literally) disappointed when you shoot for the stars right away and crash back to Earth. Set those mini goals and ease into it. If you have not worked out at all in a year, don’t go to the gym for 5 days a week lifting the heaviest weights and run 5 miles. You’ll be so unbelievably exhausted, sore, and defeated you’ll never go back again.  Also, just because you’re not immediately feeling #swole doesn’t mean you’re not getting stronger and healthier. I think instant results are a total farce. Remind yourself that with anything, progress takes time.

Seriously, Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

Oh man I am SO frequently guilty of this. If I go to gym and see a girl lifting heavier than me, I get jealous. If I’m doing a workout video and can’t keep up with the trainer, I get disappointed. If I go on Instagram… ya, everyone on Instagram makes me envious. I have to remind myself daily that I can only compare myself to myself. I’m probably not going to be stronger than that girl at the gym because she’s taller and bigger than me. I’m not a personal trainer for a living so I don’t have to be as fit as one. And Instagram, seriously it’s all faked. Good lighting, angles, and some Photoshop and anyone can be a model.

Do Something You Like

I know that running is a great exercise but I hate it. And I am for whatever reason terrible at it. So when I tried to make running my main workout, I worked out probably once a month. So I’ve learned: If you hate something, don’t do it! Find something you like, better yet love. Because at the end (or beginning) or the day are you gonna be motivated to workout when it sounds like torture? Probably not. I’ve found I love weightlifting, Pilates, ballet, barre, and hiking. I still hate running but if it’s nice enough out, I’ll torture myself on a run to get a little sun.


Body Image · Mental Health · Workouts

When life gets in the way

At the start of last week, I had ambitiously set a plan for my workouts for the month ahead. Writing a blog, I figured, would be a great way to hold me accountable and keep me motivated.

The plan for week one was ambitious, for me anyway: 5 days a week of combination strength training and cardio, with two “active” rest days incorporating some kind of low intensity activity like ballet or yoga.

And then life got in the way.

An often busy schedule and the hectic life lead is probably the #1 reason I fall out of my routine; after long, crazy days I’m much more inclined to skip the gym, skip a dance class, drive to the store when I planned to walk. But this week I faced a very different challenge, one that I couldn’t plan around.

I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for several years now. While I have made many personal strides in managing it and becoming an overall happier person, I still struggle from time to time. This past week was hard for me and I skipped 3 planned workouts/activities. The situation was sort of a Catch-22: I was too overwhelmed by my anxiety to workout as planned and yet I was mad at myself for not following my plan thus making myself feel worse and more depressed. Saturday was a particularly hard day for me as I had a long to-do list prepared and accomplished none of it. I felt ready to give up on this challenge.

But I didn’t. I tried again on Sunday and went to the gym, went on a hike, enjoyed the sunshine, and moved forward.

The key for me in moving on and moving forward has always been forgiveness. I am my own worst critic and when things don’t go according to plan, I’m easily disappointed. As corny as it sounds, countering negative thoughts with positive ones and disappointment with forgiveness is key in any personal journey and especially true for me.

And in case you’re curious, yes I did workout this week! Here’s some of what I did this Sunday:

  • Bench Press: 35 x 10, 3 x 8 @ 40, 35 x 12
  • Back squat: 45 x 10,  65 x 10, 75 x 8, 85 x 5, 65 x 10, 45 x 10
  • One-arm rows
  • Lunges
  • Plank with shoulder taps



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Why am I doing this?

Everybody nowadays, it seems, is busy. Like scheduling every little task, outing, chore down to the minute busy.

All the “experts” say you should start creating healthy habits when you’re in your twenties. When I was in my senior year of college, I was way too busy to think about being “healthy.” I was trying finish a four-year degree in three years, writing for three campus publications, interning for two magazines and applying furiously to jobs all the while living off a limited food budget that could afford me spaghetti and rice and beans (though there was plenty money for beer, oddly enough).

Then at the ripe old age of 20, it was as if my future self came back to warn me If you don’t take care of your body now, you are so gonna feel later. That warning sign came in the form on debilitating back pain. It started as a sharp pain in my low back that traveled through my glutes down my leg.It lasted anywhere from a week to a month at a time.

Several years and dozens of trips to physical therapy later, I am finally not too busy to take care of my body. It took several years coping with the pain to realize that taking care of my body is just as important as my career, my social life, or binge-watching the last season of Game of Thrones before the new season starts.

But I’m not any less busy than I was in college. It has been a struggle to stay active when I, like many others, have so many competing priorities. That’s why I started this blog — to have a goal to work towards to keep me motivated and keep my health a priority in life.

The goal: attend my first powerlifting competition within a year. I’ll be working out 3-4 days a week doing mainly strength training and cardio (though I also do Pilates and ballet for fun). I’ll be filling in all you lovely readers with my progress (and inevitable challenges) each week and what I’ve learned along the way!

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